More and Better Orgasms Through Better Communication

Communication is one of the biggest things that we as human beings struggle with and it is so easy to get defensive. It's so difficult to trust that someone else is not trying to hurt us in some way. As women we tend to want/expect that our partner will know what to do or what to say and that's just not very realistic. If it feels better when he moves a little to the left, we have to be willing to tell him to move a little to the left. Ahhh....yes....right there! That's wonderful!

Learn to trust yourself and your partner and be willing to explore better sex through communication. How could he possibly know you have stronger orgasms when he pushes up while you are o'ing? How many more orgasms would we have if we could just say...a little to the left?

How to Avoid Intimacy

If you really want to avoid getting closer to your partner, here are the top ten ways to accomplish that goal:

Rule #1: Don’t talk!

Rule #2: Never show your feelings!

Rule #3: Always be pleasant!

Rule #4: Always win!

Rule #5: Always keep busy!

Rule #6: Always be right!

Rule #7: Never argue or disagree!

Rule #8: Make your partner guess what you want!

Rule #9: Always look out for number one!

Rule #10: Keep the television on!

Warning: This in not a comprehensive list. You may have other ways that have worked just as well for you in avoiding intimacy. Make sure to add your own methods to this list and then make sure not to share this list with your partner.

Source: Adapted from the FLEducator. (1985, Winter). 4:2